It’s easy to feel overwhelmed by thinking about your future career. People constantly ask where you see yourself in 5 years or what new internship you have lined up. Most of us don’t have everything figured out, and that’s okay. In today’s society, we are constantly comparing ourselves to one another, whether socially or professionally. The unknown is uncomfortable for everyone. Sometimes, working harder towards your career might not be the solution.
It’s vital to take a step back and evaluate your career goals. Minetum Consulting focuses on your career goals and the various ways to achieve them. It’s also important to consider the path to get on track with actions and decisions that will get you there. Releasing the plan to constantly please everyone is the first step to getting there. A study by yougov records that 52% of the population self-identifies as being a people pleaser. People pleasing is something many of us struggle with without even realizing; it may seem noble, who doesn’t like it when people like them. But it comes at a significant cost to your well-being and often affects your career without realizing it. Once we let go of doing things to make others happy, we lead a more fulfilling life.
Fulfillment comes from being true to ourselves and focusing on pleasing others first. It is about living by other people’s demands to win their approval. This constant need to make others happy before taking a look and questioning if it’s fulfilling for ourselves is draining. In addition to being emotionally draining, it also tends to hold us back in our career paths. Success in our careers and people-pleasing go hand in hand; our careers can’t advance without preventing the constant mindset of wanting to please. Being in that “pleasing” state is difficult because you don’t develop the necessary skills to succeed in leading and inspiring other people. If you can self-identify that you are in this pleasing state, Career coaching might be a great option to ditch being a constant pleaser.
It’s also challenging to decide on your future long-term goals because you’re so focused on what others want from you, not what you want for yourself. The realization of wanting success for yourself instead of validation from others is life-changing. There, however, is hope to ditch people-pleasing habits; following these helpful tips can shift your mindset:
- Increase your awareness: Be more conscious of how often you say yes to things, write it down, and then explain how it makes you feel. Look for patterns in different scenarios, then create a game plan to handle the situation better next time.
- Understand your boundaries: It’s essential to be aware of your limits and create healthy boundaries. Next, communicate those boundaries to those around you.
- Begin saying no in small ways: People pleasers often struggle saying no, but the more you practice, the easier it gets. Strengthen the no muscle in your mind.
- Replace negative self-talk: Replace negative feelings with positive ones; practicing positive mantras can help manage stress, boost confidence, and increase productivity.
- Be true to yourself: Don’t agree with something that conflicts with your priorities or makes you uncomfortable. Stick to what you feel is right; in the long run, people will be more respectful towards you.
After reading if this feels like you and you identify as a people pleaser, but want change in your career, it’s not too late. It can be overwhelming to figure out where to start, that’s why career coaching might be for you. Minetum Consulting offers various services for people in all different walks of life. It helps to have a professional through this challenge, don’t face it alone! Click here for more information about our services!
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